1 I say the truth in Christ, I lie not, my conscience also bearing me witness in the Holy Ghost,
2 That I have great heaviness and continual sorrow in my heart.
3 For I could wish that myself were accursed from Christ for my brethren, my kinsmen according to the flesh:
4 Who are Israelites; to whom pertaineth the adoption, and the glory, and the covenants, and the giving of the law, and the service of God, and the promises;
5 Whose are the fathers, and of whom as concerning the flesh Christ came, who is over all, God blessed for ever. Amen.
6 Not as though the word of God hath taken none effect. For they are not all Israel, which are of Israel:
14 What shall we say then? Is there unrighteousness with God? God forbid.
15 For he saith to Moses, I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion.
Paul expresses his heartfelt desire to have his Israelite brethren saved in the same chapter, where God's election is revealed, because God must have the right and glory and dignity above our emotions. So we will cry and pray (but a person who believes in free will if he is consistent should not pray on bit), but not refuse and demean the will of God, much less blame him, like those brethren did by saying "who has resisted his will".
That there is even one saved sinner is a pure miracle and a gigantic expression of God as a loving God. We are at peace with the world and can't comprehend the chasm, the great distance and enmity between fallen man and God, so think it proper and reasonable that he would want to save all, but this is a human point of view and very defective for several reasons. Arminians severely underestimate the extent of the fall and say that there must be something from God's image deserving respect and good will, but God's image in man is only a vestige and corrupted by the Devil. Consequently in their twisted view the redemptive work is very minimal or non-existent altogether, the reconciliation simple and initiated by man, but the Bible teaches otherwise Romans 5:6-10. God's great condescension is his taking upon a likeness of the sinful flesh, because man had fallen so low, he couldn't even think of anything agreeable to God Romans 8:1-8. Otherwise how could man be said to be an enemy of God? He is not an enemy through work and act only, but in constitution, as scripture reveals. The fall is a great catastrophic event that completely changed visible and invisible creation, and the restitutive, redemptive work of Jesus Christ, the creator Col 1:14-22, on the cross is a great removal of the effects of the fall, but not in the entire creation, because most of it will burn in God's wrath. What is that power in our will to effect or affect any of this, I ask? Jesus' work is complete. God didn't reveal the full implications of the fall in his short condemnation in Genesis, because Adam and Eve, with their new depraved minds, wouldn't be able to take it or rather would have sunk in horrible despair for themselves and their posterity. It was enough that they "should die" and have pains, this confrontation with God, this contrast with their previous condition, this for them was the revelation of their "total depravity", the personal horror of alienation from God, with the conclusion that a burning sword stood in the way back. We have the Bible, speaking of God's holiness and perfections and our misery, to show how far off we have fallen, but we are not in the perfection of God with his omniscience and justice, so we can't know the full depth of our wretchedness and unworthiness and how his pardon and justification in Christ is an unthinkable display of love and mercy Romans 5:7-8
The mental projection of an all-loving God is an idol, which must be torn down, for it is not real and revealed in Scripture, for an All-loving God would not suspend his omnipotence and omniscience to leave sinful and ignorant people to themselves. If I had a friend and I knew that he would make a fatal choice, and I loved him and was within my power to convince him to make the right choice and be saved, if I didn't use my power and influence to dissuade him, how can I say that i love him, when i leave him to die by his folly? For once and for all we should understand that God owes us nothing.
Those, whom God loves with an everlasting love will be drawn into that love. The divine order precludes and human initiative or knowledge.
The LORD hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee.
Therefore, all are not drawn. For if all were drawn, all would be loved everlastingly, and how is God's love everlasting towards them, who will spend an eternity in Hell and are called cursed workers of iniquity etc, even before their entry into Hell? When does God's love cease to be everlasting for them? Is it love, when it can be rejected and is conditional? God has no conditional love. But we know God loved us and many others, to whom we must labour to get the good news of their salvation, so that at the end of the world, as it is written in the book of Revelation we may all rejoice at our salvation and the destruction of the enemies of God.
3 Among whom also we all had our conversation in times past in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind; and were by nature the children of wrath, even as others.
4 But God, who is rich in mercy, for his great love wherewith he loved us,
5 Even when we were dead in sins, hath quickened us together with Christ, (by grace ye are saved;)
If God loves someone with his eternal love, he will resurrect him, like Lazarus. He won't "offer" him salvation, he won't "try" to convince him, he will raise him from the dead as he is- stinking, cold, non-responsive.
The divine order in eternity and time is the opposite of our perceived order.
He loved us, then we loved him. (1 John 4:16-19)
He called us, then we called upon his name. (1 Cor 1:24; Rom 8:29-31)
He chose us, then we chose him. (John 15; 1 Thess 1:4,9)
He turned us, then we turned to him. (Jeremiah 31:18)
He put his fear in us, then we feared him. (Jeremiah 32:40)
So many wonderful gifts, all from the merit of Christ and grace of God! May he bestow them on many more!